You and I seem to have been together for a long time but I never acknowledged you as a friend. Actually, up until recently, you’ve felt more like a foe to me. You know, it’s hard to thank someone when all they do is make me feel like everything is a struggle. It’s hard to appreciate someone who keeps getting in the way of what I want most. It’s so hard to be kind and gracious with someone who seems to always be testing me.
That’s why I haven’t thanked you…
This year, I hit a milestone: I turned 50. This was supposed to be the year where both my children enjoy the freedom of independent adult life, where my marriage feels like a honeymoon again, where my health improves, where I revel in exotic travel, where business goes through the roof, where my capacity for influence expands, where my self-mastery blooms, and where my contribution multiplies.
Some of those things have happened. Some of those things have yet to happen. Some of those things will never happen.
What I’ve come to realize is that you are my friend. Honestly, you’re probably my best friend and, if not, you are, undoubtedly, my most masterful mentor.
If it were not for the times when you diverted me, I wouldn’t have had to reach to the depth of my being to reset my compass.
If it were not for the times when you placed obstacles before me, I wouldn’t have had to learn to ask for help to move them out of the
If it were not for the times when you made life seem so unfair, I wouldn’t have had to tap into my courage to let go of the victim harbored within.
If it were not for the times when you just wouldn’t give me a break, I wouldn’t have had to build that muscle called faith.
If it were not for the times when you sucker-punched me, I wouldn’t have had to reach to the depth of my soul to find the meaning of life.
If it were not for the times that you took away what I loved most, I wouldn’t have had to believe that there is a greater purpose for my existence.
Adversity, I sincerely thank you and commit to embracing you!